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For Once in My Life:
The Authorized Biography of Arlinda Willis
Publishing August 27, 2026

In 1963, eleven-year-old Arlinda leaves Alabama's Jim Crow racism to reunite with her mother. Convinced she must earn her love through achievement, she becomes a national TV dancer, Miss Black Cleveland model, and San Francisco legal secretary. But each fleeting accomplishment only deepens her belief that love must be earned.

Unemployed and enduring a medical system that devalues Black women's pain, a cancer diagnosis strips away her independence and her carefully constructed image of strength. Left with nothing, she must finally prove she is lovable without the performance.

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Rob Cole began writing in 1993, with his short story, “Brenin”, first published in The Anthologist, Rutgers University’s literary magazine. In 1997, after earning his degree in English with specializations in Creative Writing and Comparative Literature, he built an immersive virtual reality world to present his short stories. He crafted stories for animal rescue websites, such as International Fund for Africa and Steriliseren Nederlands. His fundraiser photo book, HOPE, showcased the impact of pioneering Spayathons.

Rob Cole met Arlinda Willis at a San Francisco law firm in 1994. What began as a cubicle friendship became one of the most important relationships of his life. At Arlinda's request, he documented her life story. For Once in My Life is the result of nearly 20 years of friendship, research, and devotion to getting her story right.

Rob Cole holds a degree in English with specializations in Creative Writing and Comparative Literature. He is the founder of Fellowship for Perpetual Growth, an animal sanctuary on the Big Island of Hawaii, where he lives and writes.